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Relationships · 7 min

How to use the oracle after an argument

After conflict, cards should reduce noise, not choose a winner.

Cool first

Do not open a reading in the first wave of anger. Write the fact, emotion, and need.

Then question

A good question sounds like: what step preserves dignity and does not increase harm?

Short checklist

  • Wait 20 minutes.
  • Name the boundary.
  • Do not use cards as a weapon.

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